Honouring Love by A.s.K

Deborah Macken Wood - A Certified Master Grief Counsellor, Master Mindful Awareness Life Coach, Master Stress & Anxiety Counsellor, Trauma Release Therapist, P.I. Master Mind Coach. Here is what Deborah has to say from her own experience of loss and now supporting so many globally with exceptional transformations...

I lost my beloved husband May 2011 he was only 34 years old. It was certainly was not what you would ever want or expect so early into your life to lose the one you love... no age or time is good... it was tragic. It happened and it was totally out of my hands fully. I searched every widow site for support and went to grief support many times but nothing was taking away that deep crippling pain, sadness and emptiness. Yes, it was good to talk it helps of course and knowing you are not the only one going through such sadness and pain. I certainly wasn't alone in this but I still felt so lonely and in so much pain even around my friends and family and they had given me so much love and support in the process. I just felt completely overwhelmed like I was just drowning and existing in this loss.

How can I ever come back from this and yet I just wanted to move forward and be happy in some other way... away from such sadness but it just wasn't happening. In my head I knew that this was a process and I hated it so much but in my heart, I felt only love and wanted him back. It isn't something we experience everyday THANKFULLY... it is very surreal and painful when loss happens any loss is. But what about this pain and emptiness we have to consume... how long do we have to keep feeling like this was the question. This was always the question because it's just not good and there has to be a way a way in which I can accept it fully and no longer feel crippled with the loss and pain and live my life again. I don't want to exist in this sadness as I know my late husband would not want to watch down on me and for me to be like this.

So, a year after the death I went away to India. One of the things my late husband and I spoke about was death and what we would want if either of us died before the other. Yes it isn't something that we as humans want to discuss because we don't want to even see or feel such loss whilst we are alive, but it is fact... it will come at some point to all of us. So for me when I look back it was a good thing to talk about these things especially when the funeral arrangements had to be done. One of my late husband’s wishes was some of his ashes to be taken to the Holy River Ganga in India. Now whilst he was not Indian he felt a deep connection there for many reasons and wanted this. So of course, how could I not go and do this. Yes, it was a long way to go and I had already developed anxiety, fear and panic after his loss so this was a push for me to travel. Yes, I needed time out for sure and I am carrying out my late husband’s wishes so how can I not. What I didn't know when I got to India months later...what was going to be ahead of me... was an open door shown to me for my future with exceptional life transformations within myself and for so many more. Let's just say when you are open for change away from such sadness and every lower emotion possible...change can certainly happen.

Grief can be very painful and disabling experience...but what if that could change!

There is always Light..

all we need to do is look for it!

So, I trained and studied deeply in doing my Mastery Degree in Human Mind and Dynamics based in the Himalayas for five years. To learn deeply around the human mind and all our emotions... the beautiful ones and the not so good ones... including Grief and every other single challenge life can bring. I always felt after the loss even with other challenges I had locked away within me that there has to be a different approach a different way.. away from such pain to heal faster to come back to our true self again. Thankfully I found that way and it was definitely faith I know that much now and it is certainly now my reason for existing with my Purpose.

I feel extremely blessed and in the highest of gratitude to our Mentor here in India to be able to give these teachings, learnings and powerful fast transformations back to the world because this approach is just beautiful, powerful and exceptional in supporting people to a much higher space around loss anything in fact. I am supporting thousands of people globally away from the pain of Grief fully and any other life challenges and fast. What I didn't know back then over 12 years ago around moving forwards with such a tragic loss to what I certainly do know now in supporting so many out of this pain... is what I can only express is a blessing for anyone's future happiness and peace to leading their life again away from such sadness and becoming happier. Isn't that what our loved ones who have left would want for us as we would only want for them if we left before them?

If you could live a life half or as whole as your loved ones and celebrate every moment just the way they would want you to, wouldn't you consider yourself lucky? Nothing in this world can bring our loved ones back and that we know. Nothing can ever replace their presence. But acknowledging their love in our life and living a happy, meaningful, fearless life just like they would want... isn't this the greatest gift and way to honor them. Yes of course we are always going to miss our loved ones but with Our Focused Mindful Aware Life Learning session it will not just make you so much Stronger but will actually transform your pain into acceptance and enable you to start moving forwards again. This doesn't mean that we stop missing when we think about all our loved ones that has passed away it only means that we are no longer crippled by the Grief and come to acceptance and peace. Who doesn't want this?

Grief can be Transformed into beautiful Meaningful Expression of Love

- Deborah Macken

I cannot express enough how this women has supported me over the past few weeks online with my grief. Wow! Deborah you are truly a gift to anyone that needs support. You have taken me out of my darkest days around my grief and not just 1 loss 3 losses. You are such an amazing person I don't know how you do it but don't ever stop because the world needs you in it. Wow! So much love from me and the little ones at the Renouf home. Can't wait until you return to Jersey in an a few weeks to take you for a coffee and meet you in person. So much love and respect Susan xxx

Susan P Renouf

Jersey, Channel Islands

I was recommended Deborah through a close friend of mine to help with my struggles of loving myself and surrounding by losing loved ones and before the loss of another person close to my heart to help prepare myself for it. Debbie really helped me understand and see losing someone I loved in a new light, instead of seeing past loved ones dying as them abandoning me but that it wasn’t them abandoning me. I may of only had a few sessions with her but they honestly turned my life around for the better and helped me push through the hard times that came not long after, after losing another loved one. But the sessions truly helped me deal with the grief and learning to love myself in the process. Debbie helping me realise these things and giving me the push I needed to see life and love in a different light that I never did before. Thank you so much Debbie for all your words of encouragement, listening and giving me a new way of seeing life, death, love and myself. It truly made a big change in my life and I’m not sure how I would of coped with another loss without you giving me a new insight into life. You truly are a diamond and I would recommend her highly for anyone looking for someone to help you be your best self and cope with hard times!!

Leoni Bent

London, United Kingdom

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‘Love is Infinite’ …. Who would have known this simple but powerful trilogy of words could make such a difference to one’s self! I went to see Deborah as I had been highly recommended a while ago while I was going through ‘stuff!’ I just hadn’t made that appointment due to one thing and another. I’m a big believer in timing and that things will happen when it’s right for you! It was right for me yesterday and it was my time! Feeling so sad…lacking in confidence… not coping with work and every day life… it was TIME to contact Deborah and as chance would have it, she was in town! That’s what I call… ‘Meant to be!’ Although I am blessed that I have the most amazing support from my gorgeous hubby, mum and friends, I just couldn’t seem to pick myself up and nor could they! An eighteen month roller coaster which resulted in me losing my lovely step-mum and my amazing dad last year has been emotional to say the least. I have had to dig deep more than you know, but as time has gone on I’d totally lost myself! I met with Deborah yesterday and I have to say I knew as soon as I walked in the room, that hug, that energy in the room, I was going to walk out feeling different! I wasn’t wrong, what an amazing ‘session’, ‘meeting’ ‘chat’… whatever you call it, it was just what I needed. I now have a totally different perspective on the grief I have been feeling, the sense of loss for both Dad & Jill and the feeling of being lost in myself! I have no regrets! So important! ‘Love is infinite!’ Thank you so much Deborah xxx

Jersey, Channel Islands

Kirsty Wilson-Seabrook

Faye Sumner

Grief can take over your life, when you have hurt and pain already it can destroy you if you let it. I was lucky enough to come across an amazing lady Deborah and her team of angels that help people regain their clarity about what life is all about... I cannot even put into words how much their support, knowledge, guidance and love has done for me at what has been literally the worst time of my life. I'm finally feeling and getting back to my true self. I ask anyone who is suffering internally in any way to contact these wonderful human beings at Ask Life Clarity. You can regain your love of self and of life with their help and support, I promise you that. So thank you, from the bottom of my heart Deborah and team Ask Life Clarity and the amazing Krishiv AnantaGuru... Keep up your amazing work and one day I hope to help people the way you do. Love and light Always ❤❤

London, United Kingdom

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It’s very rare you get to meet someone that not only nurtures your soul but gives you everything they have in their support and goes even beyond that. Deborah, you have changed my heart and my understanding around grief like I cannot express. Two and half years ago I lost my daughter to tragic circumstances and 9 months later my husband got cancer and passed in space of one month of finding out. I never imagined I could or ever would feel me again or even want to live but you turned this around for me and I can never thank you enough. I took 3 sessions online with Deborah as she is currently in India mentoring and when I took the call with her first for half an hour, afterwards, I felt a huge weight lifted already like hope. 3 sessions later and I am now in a place of peace and deepest love and acceptance around my losses and I am able to see the light. Deborah is by far one of the best expert networks out there. I have been going to grief counselling 16 months and nothing and I mean nothing can compare to Deborah support. I will never forget this and I will forever be extremely grateful to you. Your love and support and amazing ways of seeing loss in a totally different light is so beautiful and freeing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart Deborah. Sadie

Sadie Milner

Dublin, Ireland

3 years ago myself and my wife lost our son and daughter in law in a motorbike accident in France this was possibly the worst of our life. We both live in the UK and getting to France was just a nightmare because we knew exactly what we were going for…. It’s every parent’s worse nightmare and really was happening to us. They say the first year is the worse but we say every single day is the worse we just could not accept it. Karen my wife was told about Deborah at Ask life clarity through a friend on FB and she emailed us with details and asked us to look at this and see if it would help. We both searched for few years trying to find someone or some group that could help us to understand or even give us right support by many we tried felt like we just couldn’t move forward and most of all we just kept hearing “it takes time” or “never forget” we knew this deeply but the thing was we both wanted peace and yet been told it takes time we both understand but we just wanted peace. We both contacted Ask life clarity and received a message back with the most beautiful response. We both had a joint session and on our session we both smiled at the end of the call it was really great. The way Deborah makes you understand is far deeper than we could personally think for ourselves simply amazing. We don’t have enough words to express our deepest gratitude this has given to us to take forward now in our lives. We cannot recommend enough they truly are one exceptional team. Blessings and love from us always Donald and Karen

Karen & Donald Bishop

Derby, United Kingdom

Kath Fishwick

I was at an all time low having lost my mum and my partner in a very short period of time. Whilst I could accept the loss of my mum as she had suffered with MND for years and had told me herself she had “had enough”, I struggled to accept the loss of my partner. I felt guilty that he’d gone snd I was still here, churned things over in my mind constantly, wondering if I could have done things differently. Deborah and asklifeclarity was recommended to me and I am so glad I made contact. I am in a much more positive frame of mind now, and whilst I miss my partner more than words can say, I can focus more on the happy memories we made, can talk about him without bursting into tears and smile when he wanders through my mind. Please don’t struggle alone x

Wigan, United Kingdom